We’ve reached that point in the year where for many, January 1st has become a distant memory. This happens every year, but time and time again, it continues to catch us off guard. The end of March will mark three whole months since you sat down and set your intentions for 2017. Is your progress measuring up to your expectations?
That is a heavy question. You probably have some wins and accomplishments to be very proud of. You also likely experienced some challenges and setbacks. The most important part of this personal Check-In is to be honest with yourself - you are fully deserving of celebrating your successes, but you must remain fully open to refining, adjusting, and adapting to remain steadfast on your path toward your most personal and complex goals. It takes a minimum of three months to make significant changes in your life, and turn practice into habit. In those three months, shifts and adjustments for sustainability are inevitable. To master your 2017 Check-Ins, dedicate some time to ask yourself the following:
- Are my goals challenging me? Furthermore, are they challenging me enough?
- Have I sacrificed my health for any other aspect of my life, or vice versa? If so, what needs to change?
- Are my goals strictly physical or outward? Have I addressed the need for emotional, intellectual, or spiritual growth?
The process of reinventing and reaching your goals will teach you amazing things about yourself. Below, we’re sharing a bit of what we’ve learned by pushing our own boundaries in goal setting and providing some steps for you to make any necessary adjustments to your own plan, following your next 2017 Check-In.
Back in January, I wrote a blog about “breaking basics” in goal setting to inspire our readers to go further in 2017, and to let go of the things that are holding them back. It was a challenge that we set forth to change the mindset in which goals are set. An incredible thing that happens in the process of writing to inspire others, is that you yourself become inspired. You walk the walk a little stronger than before due to the deep exploration that it took to gather your thoughts and set an actionable plan. So I myself, took my own advice in the new year. I can report that I am in some ways exhausted, yet I am also invigorated and stronger than ever.
For me, I had to figure out how to perform at close to a 10 in both business and health. In the past, when one was at a 10, the other would drop to a 7. I was personally frustrated because it was taking me so long to find this balance. The new year forced me to compose a pretty thorough plan for both business and health. I integrated the entire system into my life by entering it into my calendar as my priority, then I schedule the rest of my life around it. I'm no longer working 14-hour days with no workout, or getting so far behind on business tasks that I fall off the workout wagon completely. It ALL gets done because I found my formula. This is also working for some of our clients that we are coaching through our Meet Your Muse program.
It's about making a commitment, and designing a system that guides you towards your muse. I'm exhausted, yes. But that is because 1) this time of year is always nuts in the wellness industry because our 1st quarter is filled with new customers and lots of events. 2) I'm growing in my capacity to function at a higher level on multiple cylinders. I feel I have been able to attack challenges in life with more clarity and direction because there just isn't time to not get it in. My social life has decreased a bit, some good and some bad. Good, because I have narrowed my social life to supporting the positive, uplifting and mutual friendships rather than the contrary. Bad, because I’m still working on giving myself more time with the ones I love, without feeling like the rug is going to get pulled out from under me if I’m not working. At the same time, my focus has led to amazing new opportunities that are bringing a new found joy and satisfaction. Overall, I have learned to make the plan and work the plan as it is providing more balance as well as success. This time of year is perfect for making the necessary tweaks to your goals so that you can truly transition into a life plan. We have 10 months to go in 2017. Your muse is calling you! - Rashanna Moss
It’s pretty clear that the Moderna Muse philosophy on overall health, wellness and happiness is anything but one-tracked. So many factors play into becoming the best version of yourself, and that is exactly what I tried to keep in mind back in January, when setting my goals for 2017. I have historically been an “all-in” type of person - committing to very clear, very tangible goals with definitive markers for success. These goals usually lived in worlds separate from one another, with no goals feeding into or playing off of one another. If you think back to the piece Rashanna mentioned earlier, she challenged us to step away from the typical confines of goal-setting, and to push ourselves to dig deeper. Look at the big picture. Dive into a complex, multidimensional goal that might even require a redesign of your whole lifestyle or way of thinking.
These types of deep, personal goals are difficult to put into words, and sometimes the end result isn’t easy to visualize. But if you’ve ever experienced total alignment with your muse or can imagine what it feels like, you know that sense of satisfaction in your core, and that feeling becomes your vision. It brings a sense of clarity, confidence, and calmness that translates into an undeniable trust in the process and the challenges ahead. That feeling is my continuous goal for 2017 and beyond. Shifting my goals to a more holistic, inclusive approach has required me to let go of one major thing: numbers. In many cases, goal tracking is most easily translated to counting - from calories to account balances to checkmarks on the to-do list to workouts per week, quantifying results can help with focus. But it has also given me stress, which brings a whole other bout of challenges - distraction, lack of sleep, emotional sensitivity, and a general feeling of exhaustion. This year, I have channeled more of my focus into three major areas: 1) what and how my body feels 2) valuing knowledge and experience over wealth and 3) remaining confident and calm in accomplishing tasks. All of these things are qualitative, thus increasing my quality of life without the added stress of counting every single achievement as a means to an end.
Looking at your goals through a qualitative lens can feed your soul with the goodness that keeps it fired up when it comes to reaching for goals, but there is still a place for structure and planning. You can’t simply say, “I’m going to be more mindful” and suddenly have a bounty of knowledge and awareness bestowed upon you from the universe. Qualitative goals take work and practice, so I have put a structure of actions and exercises, as well as a calendar around those goals to hold myself accountable to them. And of course, it’s okay and often helpful to include some markers of numbers or data in your goals, but it will all be without meaning if you aren’t balancing that with the freedom, happiness, and satisfaction your soul wants at its core. Don’t abandon your muse in the race to quantify your achievements! - Shannon Pike
We hope you can see that the journey is just as important, if not more important, than the destination. Being open and honest with yourself about your successes and challenges can become a catalyst for getting to know yourself on a level you never imagined. Going through deliberate personal Check-Ins through the year will help you in cultivating goals that break basic and push you to get in touch with exactly who you are meant to be. So put your plan in place, and commit to your routine Check-Ins just as you committed to the goal itself:
- Pick a Check-In date and stick to it. Three-month increments are a great place to start. If you find that your life shifts with certain seasons, or certain times of year can trigger a falloff from your goals, adjust accordingly.
- Make an effort to reduce the internalizing of outward noise. This includes the distraction of relationships that do not serve or support you. Your goals and your progress are your own, and your markers of success should never come from the criticisms of others. If you’re relying on the opinions of others to determine where you’re at in the process, your goals are not your own, and you will lose touch with the journey.
- Eliminate self-pity and excuses. There is a delicate balance between pushing and being kind to yourself. Falling short of a goal simply means you need to reevaluate and adjust your plan - not give up, or make excuses. You are capable of more than you know!
Even though we are challenging you to set very personal goals and have extremely honest conversations with yourself, remember that you are not alone in your journey. Draw inspiration and motivation from the people in your life that support you, can relate to you, and hold you accountable for working your plan. And if you’re ready to amplify your growth but aren’t sure where to start, we would be honored to hear from you. Contact us any time. We’re in this together, musas!
Rashanna Moss & Shannon Pike
CEO & COO, Moderna Muse